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Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Male Victims of Domestic Violence

When we think of victims of domestic violence, we mainly think of women as victims, but men can be victims, too.  As a survivor of domestic violence, I know firsthand how it affects women. While I applaud the efforts to end violence against women, I want to know what has been done to bring attention to male victims.  I found it difficult to find data on male victims of domestic violence.  I know that many people don’t believe that men can be victims of domestic violence.  Men don’t often report incidents of violence because men feel they will be viewed as weak.  According to an article dated September 7, 2010 in the UK’s Daily Mail, four out of ten victims of domestic violence are male.   In the article, it also stated that men feel that they are treated unfairly by the police and the justice system.  If most people don’t believe that men can be victims, then we might assume that law enforcement and the justice system will not believe they can be victims either. 

Where can a male victim receive support?  Most organizations that provide services to women rarely provide services to men, especially shelters.  I could not find one place that primarily provides shelter to males who are victims of domestic violence.  Now, I am not saying that none exist; I just could not find them.  I did find one organization, that is biblically based, which primarily provides support to male victims of domestic violence.

MBK Ministries Outreach

Anthony Baxter is the founder of MBK Ministries which started in the Seattle Washington, but now is located in Gainesville, Florida.   I was really interested in finding out more about this ministry.

Anthony says that in October 2010, he was doing a bible study in the county jail while there for 14 days for a minor offense.  As he was reading the Word, and the Lord spoke the words, “My Brother’s Keeper” to him.  He says he assumed that he was to start a bible study named “My Brother’s Keeper.”  After he was released from prison, Apostle Sabrina Ford

 contacted him and told him to start a ministry. This is when he understood that his revelation was the name for the ministry not the bible study.

While he was in jail, God led him to read two books.  One of the books dealt with men being abused by women and he began to see that he had been verbally abused by many women in his life. These revelations made him think about how many other men have dealt with or are dealing with this abuse.  Another book he was led to was a book on spiritual warfare.  He believes that the reason the Lord led him to read these books is to point out what he had been through, and how the ministry was to operate.  He was to help abused men get out of their current situation and become spiritually whole.

Anthony states that the mission of MBK Ministries is to empower people to receive God’s love and kindness in their heart, mind and soul.  MBK has a prayer line that is bringing deliverance and healing through prayer. The prayer line number is 916-233-2999 pin# 600170. They have a men’s group that meets on Tuesdays. This group addresses the root causes of issues and comes up with biblically-based solutions to the problems that may be holding men back in their walk with God as well as their daily life.

The ministry has two radio programs.  One program, which is a talk show, airs on Saturday mornings at 8am PST, and the other program, which covers spiritual warfare, airs on Sunday evenings at 6pm PST.  Both programs air on http://www.blogtalkradio.com/mbkministries. 

Anthony says that the biggest misconception is the belief that men don’t experience abuse.  He says that men often experience more verbal abuse than physical abuse.  He feels that the verbal abuse hurts just as much, if not more, than physical abuse. 

Minister Baxter is available to speak at your church and/or organization on male domestic violence.  If you would like to contact Minister Anthony Baxter please call (206) 293-9199 or write him at mbkministries@gmail.com.  You can also go to http://www.mbkministries.org/

Saturday, August 27, 2011

The Power of Influence

In honor of “Bridge Over Troubled Water” HIV Support Group’s 24th anniversary, I have decided to dedicate this post to one of the founders and facilitators, Rev. Horace Goodwin. When you tend to think of people who influenced our country we tend to think of people like John F. Kennedy, Abraham Lincoln, Elvis Pressley, James Brown and Michael Jackson to name a few. They all had the power to influence a nation and did.

Now you don’t have to be a president or musical genius to be influential. In 2007 I lost a good friend, Horace Godwin who also was very influential. Now he was not a leader in government or a musical superstar but his influence was in the way he cared so much about people who were HIV positive, in recovery and/or were ex-offenders.

I first met Horace over 26 years at a conference that he organized for people in recovery to talk specifically about their relationship with Jesus Christ and how it helped them stay clean and sober. I was amazed at the number of people who attended the conference and how he seemed to know every person there. At the time he was doing some work at St Mary Episcopal Church at 18th & Bainbridge streets.

St Mary Episcopal was one of the first churches in the city to reach out to people living with HIV along with Calvary United Methodist Church at 42nd and Baltimore Avenue. A few years later, True Gospel Tabernacle C.O.G.I.C. in south Philadelphia also started reaching out to people in recovery and who were HIV positive. Horace played a significant part in these churches doing outreach.
Monday, January 31, 2011

Ten Issues To Address If You Don't Want To Talk About HIV

Although HIV has been around for 30 years there are many of us who find it difficult to talk about the disease. A few of us still refuse to address the issue at all. I decided to make a list of issues that if discussed would reduce the infection rate without mentioning the words “HIV” or “AIDS”. Now you may find it difficult to address all of these issues but if you could address one it would really make a difference in the incidence of HIV.
Wednesday, October 6, 2010

We Should Use Bishop Eddie Long's Situation To Examine Ourselves

I like many of you were saddened to hear the allegations against Bishop Eddie Long. When I first heard the allegations on CNN I could not believe that it. After hearing some of the details I felt that if it is true that other people had to know. Remember I said "if" it is true. I know that his stand on gay marriage has caused the allegations to get more attention.

I am concerned about how the media may use this situation to unfairly scrutinize the church. I hope that we don't lose sight that Bishop Ediie Long is just a man he is not God. I pray that God reveals the truth so that the healing can begin. I feel this is an opportunity for the body of Christ to address some issues that could help us grow spiritually.
Sunday, July 11, 2010

South Street Mobs

Tonight after attending a Femi Kuti concert at the Theater of the Living Arts (TLA) on South Street I witnessed something that I really don’t understand. There were mobs of young African- Americans everywhere. But so were the police. You could barely walk down the street. Now I don’t understand what the deal is about flooding South Street at a time when most of the stores are closed and restaurants are starting to shut down. I walked from 4th & South to 11th & South to wait for the 23 bus. As I was walking I saw a lot of young people who clearly were too young to be out on the street after 12 midnight. When I got to 11th & South I heard the police telling the crowds that were coming from Broad Street that they had to turn around because they would not be allowed to go any further.

After waiting at 11th & South for about 5 minutes a police told me and 3 other people that we could not stand on the corner to wait for the bus. He told us that we had to go either one block south or north to catch the bus. I decided I would walk one block south. Now there was a young lady and two guys on the corner with me and they started walking south also. I thought that they all were going to catch the bus.

 Apparently the young lady was going to catch the bus and one of the guys was trying to talk to her. I thought they were a couple because when I first got to the corner they were in a tight embrace (I mean so tight air could not get between them) against the wall. As they were walking the one guy was trying to get the young lady’s telephone number and was saying some things that I thought were very inappropriate. But the young lady was also saying things that were inappropriate, like making references to the size of the guy’s penis and how she did not feel anything when he hugged her. That made him angry and his friend encouraged his to stop talking to the young lady and walk to Broad Street.
Monday, May 10, 2010

The Movie “Just Wright” Is Just Right for a Conversation about Relationships

I went to a special screening tonight for the movie “Just Wright” starring Queen Latifah, Common and Paula Patton. I thought the movie was excellent and will go see it again this weekend. Before I expound on the movie I want to talk about the screening. I received an email from www.wheredastaintsat.com announcing the screening. I receive emails from them regularly and they often send me information that if I can’t use I pass on to my friends. I clicked on the link to register. I registered myself and a guest. I had asked my friend Valerie who just graduated from nursing school and passed the licensure test to attend the screening with me. I knew that nursing school was stressful so I knew that she would enjoy going to a movie.

 When I received the confirmation email it stated that I was registered for the screening in Atlanta. I knew that was a mistake and I quickly sent an email to the promotional marketing company that was overseeing the screenings. A very short time later I received a response from Felicia at Liquid Soul Media, www.liquidsoulmedia.com. The email informed me that there was a glitch and that they were working to correct it and that I have indeed registered for the screening in Philadelphia. I appreciated the very prompt response from Felicia.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010


In January, I started receiving initiations to join AARP. At first I was a little upset because no one wants to think of themselves as old. But the more I thought about it the more I realized that there was a part of me that did not want to accept that I was turning 50 in a few months. Yes, the big 5-0! Once I confronted the fact that time was marching on (no pun intended) I started to realize how much I have to be thankful for. There are so many friends and family that did not make it to the year 2010 let alone 50.

Because I have made a conscious decision not to dye my hair there are some who think that I am already 50. I prefer to think of my decision not to dye my hair is to let my wisdom show. I can tell you in the last few years I have gained so much wisdom and knowledge about myself and what I want out of life. One of the things that has helped me grow spiritually is reading Our Daily Manna (ODM), www.ourdailymanna.org. I read the Morning Prayer, Daily Devotionals and Daily Prophetic Declarations every morning. It sets the tone for my day. ODM also has another book entitled “Prayer Bullets for Winners”, which I use for specific issues. I called their main office in Lagos, Nigeria to let them know that they are greatly appreciated.